Many people embark on a personal development or self improvement program with a lot of enthusiasm and energy. They try hard to restructure their life and their beliefs in a way that will allow them to live life on the terms they desire Matses. However, many of these personal development techniques and self improvement programs fail to deliver on their promises. This leaves most people either disillusioned with personal development or creates a self improvement junkie who moves from one program to the next without ever getting what they truly want. Do you fall into one of those two categories of people?
The great majority of personal development programs, CDs, techniques, books and seminars teach very valuable and life changing information. The methods they promote do work. It is unfortunate though that they are missing a very vital and essential truth. It is this missing information that is the key to achieving unparalleled success with these programs. This key is not only the launching pad for success and a guaranteed method which will allow you to gain anything you desire if it is put into practise but it is also the reason behind your failure because you have not known nor applied it before now!
Perhaps you have noticed that there are situations in your life that seem to repeat themseleves. DO you have a recurring problem in your life that never seems to get resolved? You keep getting jobs that are unsatisfactory; have bad bosses; irritating co-workers; financial problems; painful relationships, etc?
Have you tried hard to change certain situations in your life just to have the same outcome every time no matter what actions you take?
The reason behind this phenomenon lies in your mind.
Anyone who has studied self improvement or personal development and even those of you who have merely touched on the subject will know that everything begins in the mind. Without the right mental attitude you can achieve nothing worthwhile in life. Nothing of major importance has ever been achieved without the achiever having had a clear mental image of the outcome already in mind before success ever came. This is where many people go wrong. They think that if they create a positive mental picture of what they want and then take actions to get it, everything will fall into place easily – they are missing the key!
The only reason people fail to achieve their goals is because of negative mental beliefs. Most times these beliefs are hidden deep in the subconscious mind. In order to achieve the success you desire it is necessary to evaluate your belief system; resurface these beliefs and then eliminate them!
When you hold in mind what you want and go after it you set in motion powerful forces in the universe that work with you to create your mental image and form it into physical reality. However, many times these mental images are hindered by the negative beliefs that you hold which are contrary to what you actually want. These beliefs are always active and running like computer programs in your subconscious mind ‘ sending out the opposite mental images to that of your desire.
It is imperative to your success to find and eliminate these negative programs. This is the whole point of personal development.
There are many great methods for eliminating negative programming. However, I have found that the hardest thing to do is not removing these negative beliefs but finding them in the first place. So this should be your first goal ‘ to seek out your negative programming. Before beginning this bare in mind that it doesn’t matter how you got these beliefs, or who gave them to you. All you want to do is find them and remove them. Leave blame out of it!
Begin by creating a goal. Write it down as though it has already happened. Read this statement aloud and then close your eyes. Create as much positive emotion around this mental picture as you can. Now just enjoy this imaginary scene until you begin to have doubts that it is real. Take a blank piece of paper and on it begin to scribble down all the negative thoughts that enter your head. Don’t judge them, suppress them or get annoyed at them, just let them flow.
Now once you have a list of all the negative thoughts connected to your goal you can begin to remove them.
Look over your list and analyse all the statements you produced. Really think about them. Are they true? Is there any basis for them? Evaluate each one in turn and think of ways to overcome each belief. There are hundreds of great self improvement tools designed to help you do this but here is a simple one to get you started.
Take one negative statement and think about what that means to you. Identify the underlying belief behind that thought. Is it a lack of self-worth, low self-confidence, insecurity, feeling not-good-enough or just a lame belief you picked-up from someone else that you have never given any real thought to?
Challenge the belief. Ask yourself questions every time you recall that belief. Question the authenticity of the belief. Identify the emotion that you feel when you think about that belief. Really allow yourself to feel that feeling. When you allow this to happen you will find that the negative emotions you are feeling get very strong just before they leave. When you allow the negative emotion, which is driving the negative belief, to fully express itself and dissipate you will find yourself much more positive and without the negative thoughts you had previously.
So everyday speak aloud your goal statement in the morning and visualize it as being reality. Create as much positive emotion around this mental scene as you can. Some time later that day, preperably at night, repeat this procedure. However, this time take a blank piece of paper and scribble down all the negative thoughts that begin to come to mind as you do it. Then take each one in turn and give it some real thought. Allow these negative emotions to fully express themselves. Do not try to supress these thoughts or the emotions behind them. Then allow them to fully express themselves in your mind and body and they will dissipate. This can be hard to do as we have been taught to suppress our emotions and have probably been doing it for many years. When you begin to feel the emotions getting stronger you will have a strong urge to suppress them but don’t! When they fully surface they will dissipate and so will the thoughts behind them.
You will find that you become much more positive in a very short time and find it much easier to achieve your goals.